This Woman (TW) Concluded ~ Part III

Introducing This Woman (TW) Completed ~ Part III    Posted on jadebeaty.com, 12/2/09

After another month of weekly private sessions, TW suggested that perhaps the bravest thing to do would be to plan the ceremony for the anniversary of the date of the kidnapping and rape (a three day range). I was in awe of her courage. Twenty years ago, she had been held at knife and gunpoint for three days as every kind of sexual act and perversion was forced on her by these four men. We had a few weeks to prepare.

On the day of the ceremony, I arrived at their home around 10 AM and spent the day. I had cooked a veggie stew, which we had for lunch. We talked about the nurturing aspects of the Divine Mother. Nothing is too dark, violent or horrific for Her. She simply widens her embrace and transforms all of it with her unconditional love. I had a beautiful statue that represented Divine Mother and we built an altar in the bedroom, with the themes of empowered passage into another state of being, healing and maternal love. I had them write notes to their future children, sharing what they’d been through in their path of healing, so that they could bring the children into form. We talked about allowing TW to access that virginal innocence she had, prior to the attack, and she was again encouraged to be in absolute control of her experience in the reflowering ceremony. As I left the house that evening, my prayers were for her healing and potential motherhood.

We had one last couples session the next month and the change in TW was remarkable. She was much ‘lighter’ in her energy and also seemed accepting of whatever took place in her reproductive life. She had let go of the desperation energy around getting pregnant and embodied the acceptance of all that is, just as our Divine Mother does. Her sweet husband just wanted her to be happy and well, and placed no pressure on her to have children. 

Three months later, I got the joyful phone call that they were pregnant. Conception likely happened just a few weeks after the ceremony. We have stayed in touch, and they now have two children and a happy home. Sexual violence can be healed. People can move beyond trauma and have normal lives. It is not an easy undertaking, but walking the fire of the healing journey is so much better than ignoring the trauma and trying to pretend that all is well, when it’s not.